Showing posts with label anxiety. Show all posts
Showing posts with label anxiety. Show all posts

Thursday, May 14, 2020

release versus relief

Plop plop, fizz fizz, oh what a relief it is...
~ Alka Seltzer ad jingle

Anxiety is a kind of pressure, usually experienced when an emotion is being pushed down or repressed.  Although it is not itself an emotion, anxiety is definitely a state. It is inner tension, or stress.

There are two things that help with this.

One is to release it.  This is what is happening to the tablet in the glass of water pictured on the right. Passing from a solid to a gaseous state, inner tension is being released.  Words, actions or emotions, all these convert trapped energy into another state. They express it.

Relief is slightly different from release in that it does not convert trapped energy as much as minimize the tension around it.  It is like what a fizzy drink does for an upset stomach, shrinking gas bubbles so the stomach becomes less distended. If you're anxious and you go for a massage, take a hot bath, or pop an anti-inflammatory, all these relax the body so tension dissipates and you experience relief.

Thursday, April 28, 2016

how to deal with anxious thoughts


Clients besieged by anxiety often ask me how to stop bad thoughts. My answer to them is always the same: you can’t.  Don’t even try.  By giving them any attention at all you empower them, lending them more room in your head to bully you with.

So DO NOT try to stop bad thoughts.  

Just turn your attention elsewhere, starving bad thoughts of attention while feeding your mind friendlier thoughts; not “positive thoughts” which you do not believe, but pleasant memories, comforting truths or reveries.

Finally, if anxious thoughts keep bugging you, breathe them in, imaging you are purifying the air like a fire-breathing dragon in reverse.  This is a form of Tonglen, a powerful Buddhist practice which reminds us that we are bigger than whatever thoughts besiege us.